Self care to-do list for when you can’t get your mind off one bad thing
To – do list for when you can’t get over it
Step 1. Write down your troubles, let it out on paper
Step 2. Let go of those troubles, they’re no longer yours!
Step 3. Write steps down to become better.
1. Writing it down
Write down what the problem is.
It could be the how you procrastinate too much, how unmotivated you are, your constant self hate, or a random lady ruining your whole day.
How one lady ruined my day and how I wasn’t able to get over it.
I’ve had many people ruin my day before, like recently there was a walmart who was rude to me, a photographer lady at the DMV… why are they all old cranky ladies? Beats me.
Anyways, this woman who was probably a few years older than me opened her door too hard so it hit my car. She got mad at me and even told me to learn how to park. I was so shocked and disgusted, I couldn’t stop thinking about it all day. She actually wanted to fight me for hitting my car lol
I felt so embarrassed since she was older, it just felt like I was in high school again. I know high schoolers aren’t that childish, but the people in this area are like that. Completely hot-headed people who are ready to “box”, and it’s always in the parking lots of Target.
Thinking back, I should have wrote about that incident in my journal. It was bothering me so much that I couldn’t focus on anything else.
I told some friends about it, just in hopes that I could feel better, but there was really no point in sharing. All my friends could say was “wow, she’s crazy.” That did nothing for me.
Writing things down calms me and helps me realize the past is in the past. It’s like you’re your own therapist lol
Letting it finally go
How do you let it go? Something that you can’t help but focus on is really hard to get out of your mind. I might sound annoying, but you just need to let the “universe” take care of it. Or God – whatever it is you believe in.
It’s something that’s not your problem anymore because there’s no point in thinking about it so much. Nothing is changing just from thinking about it, so let it go. Maybe it’s a thought that’s giving you anxiety and negative feelings.
If so, it’s not a thought that’s serving you.
Having a hard time letting go;
When it’s hard, I recommend watching shows that deal with the kind of trouble you’re facing. It helps to feel like you’re not alone and these shows can sometimes demonstrate how you can get through it. Shows like Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo, Strong Woman Do Bong-soon, and lately the show that’s been helping me is My Id is Gangnam Beauty.
These dramas show that no matter who you are, you’re likely to deal with bullies, or people who will do their best to ruin someone’s day.
For my problem, all I had to think about was how easily you can tell the lady who wanted to fight me had serious issues.
Everyone is going through something so lashing out won’t help the situation in my case. I hope you can find a way to let it go, whatever it is you’re dealing with too.
Isn’t it ridiculous that even after high school, you’re bound to run into someone wanting trouble? Life is so strange sometimes.
Writing down what you can do to be better
Yes I know sometimes its not you who has the bettering to do, like in my case, but we all can work on ourselves all the time!
You have to always be the better person and try your best to not get into any trouble. Who knows, if I did fight with that lady, they could have blamed everything on me since I was by myself and she was with two other women.
When the problem is you
If you’re having troubles with yourself, this should be a bit easier. You can give yourself tough love right away to get rid of these bad thoughts. It all depends on what the problem is.
You have to pinpoint what it is that you know you need work on and write down simple + easy tasks to make yourself better. Baby steps, guys!
Imagine someone is treating your cat, your brother or best friend the way you’re treating yourself.
This initially is what helped me to stop calling myself ugly because I would hate it if my boyfriend said those things to himself. Now we both treat ourselves better and it makes us both so happy.
How do you deal with those bad thoughts that won’t go away?
Let me know below!
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